As moms, personal wellness is of utmost importance. However, taking care of our own needs often gets put on the back burner due to the demands of life, the busyness, and the need to care for our children and household.
Moms must take care of themselves by doing things that fill them up, so that they are more able to give out to the needs around them.
So how do you take care of yourself? For everyone it is different, but it does mean having some things in your life that help you to de-stress, to relax, to enjoy, or to create. If someone were to ask you what you enjoy doing, or what your hobbies are, what would you say? Does your answer look something like this?
If that’s you, I recommend taking some time to consider what things will help you to relax, unwind, and de-stress. Sometimes as moms, we get so caught up in caring for our children, our spouse, our home, and everything else, that we almost forget what we really enjoy.
Here’s some posts to help you get on track with your personal wellness:
- The Wellness Mom Challenge – an 8 Day Challenge with simple, doable tasks delivered to your inbox each day, along with my FREE Wellness Guide for Busy Moms
- Creating New Wellness Habits
- 3 Ways to Feel Less Exhausted as a Mom
- 3 Ways to BE Grateful Even When You Don’t FEEL It
- My Addiction to Multitasking
So what about me? What have I found to help me keep this balance – to pursue that personal wellness? I’m going to share my a few of the things that fill me up here, and I’m sure your list will look different. But perhaps this can serve as a springboard for you to start thinking of your own list (plus, there’s a bonus at the end of this post in case you need a little more help in figuring out what will work best for you).
I absolutely love getting outside and enjoying the beautiful outdoors. Whether it’s a long walk in the woods behind my home, a kayak ride on the lake, snowshoeing in the winter, or staring up at the night sky, I find nature to be one of my best de-stressors.
I also really love bird-watching – I’ve been a “bird nerd” since my childhood, though that hobby took a backseat for much of my adulthood. More recently, I’ve been picking it up again, and it’s especially fun with a daughter who is just as excited about seeing an Indigo Bunting as I am.
Once again, this has been a passion since my teen years. I was an avid follower of Christian rock/alternative in high school, and often traveled across several state lines to attend festivals or concerts. Now as an adult, I still enjoy music and find it to be one of the best ways to relax and de-stress. Currently my favorite band is Switchfoot, and I promise that I can find a song of theirs that relates to almost every aspect of my life.
I suppose writing is in my blood – my grandmother wrote in her diary every day of her life up until recently, when she began having memory problems. I don’t consider myself an expert or a super creative writer, but I do enjoy it. Whenever I’ve gone through difficult circumstances, I’ve turned to writing. Now, I’m working on being more consistent with my writing – whether it’s on my blog or in my personal prayer journal.
- Coffee Dates with Friends
Or basically anything with friends. I have come to appreciate the value and importance of friendships over the past several years. I love just sitting with a nice cup of coffee and chatting with a close friend. Or grabbing lunch, or dinner, or ice cream. You get the picture – food/drink + friend(s) = happiness.
- Being Alone
On the other hand, as an introvert, I need time alone. I can’t fill up my schedule to the brim with activities with other people – I know myself well enough to know that I am a much nicer person after I have had time alone to recharge and re-juvenate. For me, I’ve begun getting up earlier in the morning each day so that I can start my day alone, before I have to begin facing all my responsibilities (and the faces of my lovely family).
For a long time, if you would have asked me the question above, I would have had a hard time answering. Now, I can quickly identify the things that help me to care for my personal wellness – the things that help me to feel restored & renewed instead of like a crazy person.
If I am feeling stressed, I know I can do one of these things above, and get myself back in balance. Sometimes life is out of balance and you will have stress – that is inevitable. As a mom, there’s a constant state of adjusting and evaluating – asking “What is working and what is not?” But knowing the things that work best for you when it comes around is the first step to dealing with it.
Not sure what you enjoy or what would help you de-stress?